What was your age when you first watched porn? If you can share please comment below and share your experience.
I was 12 when I first watched a porn. Yes, 12…………. Or is it an 18+ content?
We kids of 90s were very fond of CDs and DVDs. We used to borrow DVD player from a rental house. They used to rent DVD player set then. In one of those transactions, there was a CD in the DVD set that was left mistakenly. I ejected the CD. It was named “Hercules”. I was fascinated that I got a bonus CD of Greek Mighty Superhero. I was excited and played it.
But……………………………….you guessed it. It was a porn video CD. That was my first encounter with the porn. Thankfully, I was alone. And I hated it the first moment. There were a couple of things I thought:
- I was astonished by how anyone can even film those things.
- How can anyone be naked in form of a camera?
- Errrrr, how can they suck that thing?
Yaaaak…………I felt like vomiting.
My first encounter with porn was an accident which I didn’t favor much.
Later, I went to college. The friend’s circle grew. Getting into a college was a sign of maturity. We group of boys thought mature men watch pron. Watching a porn started by doing so while alone, with a little fear, a little shy and little dismay……….. I still thought how could they suck it? Gradually it became a routine, and then habit. After that, porn became an addiction. I was 16 and a half.
We started watching porn in groups and talk about how the boy banged the girl. Something that was a thing of isolation and privacy had now become our social issue.
I and other boys were so addicted to porn that we would go around miles in our bicycle just to get a fresh new copy of same old nude stuff. The same video could not satisfy any of us anymore. We always needed something new of the same old stuff.
Then I fell in love when I was in my 18. Falling in love was like flying in the skies, eating all the favorite foods that I like, swimming in a cold water and basking in the sun in the winter………all at the same time………. a very strong and wonderful feeling.
As love grew deeper, for the first time in my life, I felt like by watching porn I was cheating with my girlfriend. I was in love with this girl and every evening I was imagining sleeping with random girls around the world. That was just not right.
There was nothing I could do either, I was addicted to porn. I continued to watch, now with a guilt in my heart. This greatly disturbed my relation and mental health.
The reality and the porn videos differed a lot. The body figures, the ease at which people were willing to strip off and the convenience shown in porn videos were not real. Even making my girlfriend feel loved and a smile took a toll on me. These were two different worlds. I didn’t have the appetite for that diversity.
After being addicted to porn, I had always thought sex was the only thing that people always wanted. But NO. People wanted to feel loved, touched, understood, hugged. Sex was not so important in real life.
Love demanded me to become attentive, coordinated, generous, sensual, and passionate towards my girlfriend. It was a language that I never thought was necessary to be in a mutual relationship. It was too much for my brain to take.
I could not be in a relationship with a mental chaos, distortion of reality and the developing guilt. I had a breakup. Not because there was any problem from her side but, me growing up watching porn videos.
Porn was definitely hazardous to mental and emotional health. As I reduced the intake of porn videos and any type of pornography I started noticing other things.
1. Where is YOUR self-respect?
When you watch porn you are not holding your ps or playing with your vna. You are just substituting that person in your video for yourself. You just want to be those people you are watching on the screen. Isn’t it?
When you go to the porn sites to download or watch a porn, there is view count that says how many people have downloaded it or are currently watching.
Watching the same video, at the same time by millions!! It is equivalent to you sleeping with millions at the given time. Where is your self-respect?
2. Distortion of Reality.
Just imagine, if you meet a girl/boy who says she/he have slept with 200 boys/girls, how would you feel? I bet, you cannot say to your loved ones that you have slept with a thousand girls and continue to do so while you are in relation.
The perfect setting, the perfect figure, the six packs, and the larger boobs……they aren’t real. It distorts your reality and creates greater dissatisfaction in your real life.
3. Being Human is About Emotion.
Sex is also sometimes called making love. It means, it involves emotion. It addresses the need of human to be touched and felt – pampering, caressing, touching, hugging, kissing, and understanding. That’s why sex gives pleasure.
Porn is all about penetration. Porn videos do not have any interest in capturing or addressing all the human wants. The men stand with his hands at the back so that camera is not disturbed and the women also have to take care of all the makeups and the time and money invested. The only part touching is – pis and whatever part the pis is inside the women. The human desire to sex always starts from touching, caressing, hugging or kissing.
4. YOU are What YOU Watch.
You might have watched many reality shows. Let’s take an example of a dance reality or singing reality show. After watching an episode, you too want to sing or dance. If not, you will at least think about what song you would choose if you were there.
A similar thing happens every time when there is a cricket or football world cup. At the season of cricket world cup, we see many people in the community desiring to play cricket. The admission to cricket academies also increase.
People imitate what they see. Just imagine how bad impact watching porn on regular basis might have in your brain.
Some say porn doesn’t lead to social violence. Are you kidding me? Look into a bigger picture:
Access to the internet to 12 years old means he/she can watch a porn on a regular basis. The porn videos do not relate with being attentive, coordinated, generous, sensual, and passionate. They don’t address the human side of being and needs to be loved.
The addicted youth try to imitate what they see and the result is visible in our society. Because there is no emotion and morality involved, people rape whoever they want at whatever time they want. Society becomes violent, filled with the rapist and insecure for everyone.
5. I, YOU, US – Creating Necessary Condition for Porn.
The message from the movies, celebrities, and the society is also fairly towards the notion that if girls want to get the love, first and foremost you have to be worthy of sexual desire.
Further, let’s say I searched for the terms like “American High School Girls” in a porn site. This means I created a demand for the same.
For each porn I watch, girls from around the world are trafficked to fulfill my desire. It affects people from my country, my neighborhood, and my family – that might be my own person/relative/sister.
Prostitution is no body’s childhood dream. Even Sunny Leone admits she was forced into it by circumstances. Your/mine demand creates the circumstances.
6. Like a New Birth
People who stopped watching porn comment that, their desire to sex always starts with a narrative, thinking of a way to actually involve the opposite party, to make them happy and pleased.
When watching porn videos regularly, all that never existed. Porn invades your ability to imagine. Porn videos can never address that making love is about the bonding of two physical beings.
People watching porn regularly do not have the actual sex. They don’t know what sex feels like. They live in fantasies. It may be hard for them to arouse in an actual scenario that is not as fantastic as watching porn and imagining. They often report of unable to arouse at the time, not being satisfied, premature ejaculation, disinterest in sex with a partner, difficulty reaching orgasm, and other mental dysfunction.
Regular inabilities may often time lead to breakups or divorce. In societies like ours where having a child for a married couple is very important, disability born out of watching porn regularly may lead to social shame.
7. YOU and I Supporting Ill Deeds.
I was visiting a relative few months ago. The environment was really dull and the loomed heavy and sad. I found out that the elder daughter had asked for money to fill the college form. When parents didn’t give the money, she took it from father’s wallet and paid the fees.
They were all angry with that daughter, about how shameful she was for the family. I was shocked, it was the same family that was happy the last time when I visited them for their youngest son, who is just 9 years of age. He had stolen some money from his father to buy chocolates. They were proud of him. They said he was growing fast.
This bias stands true in every aspect of our life. A boy is always excused.
If a video of girl having intimate relation leaks out, the boy leaking the video is never addressed or held responsible. The actual culprit is the boy; he has no respect for the girl’s privacy, the social pressure she might face and her freedom to live life. After such leaked video, girls always suffer from all the things that society and family have to say, resulting in depressions, and disorders. The girl might suicide at some point in the future.
Boys are free to repeat the same act again. In fact, they are just growing fast. Such, boys are freely accepted in a society.
Mind it, porn is the question of life and death. If these things happened to your own sister, what would you do? Where is your empathy?
You would sit for dinner with a person who has been to the brothel once or twice, but not with a girl who faced issues in the past. Isn’t it?
8. YOUR Life, YOUR Way.
I have no offense towards the people who watch pron. Watch it all you want. It’s your life. Live it the way you want. I want you to just be aware of the consequences and be responsible.
After finding out all these facts and information I slowly stopped watching porn. It’s been around 6 years now. And I don’t have the craving.
9. Difficult. But Worth It.
For addicted, if you also think of giving up, getting rid of it might be very difficult. Leaving a habit will leave a hollow in your mind where the memory of habit was located. So, it will itch, you’ll want to hurt yourself, shout, be angry…… or do anything to kill that irritation. It is just like giving up alcohol, cigarette, your group of friends or any of your addiction for that matter. It will be difficult. It will also be rewarding.
10. The Positive Side.
Reports have shown that for those who have stopped watching porn, they witnessed better health, higher energy levels, higher productivity, and improved sexual function.
11. What’s YOUR Life About?
Now as I think, in the history of human capability never was there a time when we could say something to the entire world in a go. It wasn’t imaginable before. Unfortunately, the porn content (videos, photos, blogs, and audios) rank among the #1 searched items on the internet. This shows the kind of people the world is filled with; the kind of people we are. The technology backed by enormous possibility is filled with pornography.
Reproductive organs are a small part of the immensity of who we are and what we can achieve. But the minuscule organ has been effectively pushed into the human head. Now sexuality is not a physical phenomenon – happening purely in the body as it was meant to be. It is in the mind all the time.
In the body, it is a natural process and in the head, it is an illness.
Psychologist says it has become big because someone told that these things were wrong. Maybe, pornography has become large because someone said it was a wrong thing to do.
Don’t think about a blue monkey.
Lol………. you did it, the blue monkey popped up in your head right?
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